This topic has been an ongoing debate all over America and probably in other countries for years.
It has been discussed on the news, social media and even just personal conversations.
What I noticed is each conversation and all the questions never change.
"Is it okay to hit your child? How far is too far?"
I have battled with this in my own mind and aloud, and I think I've finally come to a conclusion.
All children are different and all parents are different. I think our parenting styles should be tailored to the personalities and tendencies of our children. I will also say that I do believe there is a such thing as going too far.
My parents are what some like to call "old-school" or "old-fashioned". So for them, spanking (or culturally speaking "whipping") is normal and has been since the beginning of their time. It didn't change when I was growing up. Although, my mother was mostly the disciplinarian in the household. My dad was more of a talker than a doer when I was younger.
When I got older, that's when things changed a bit, as far as my dad's parenting (and even my mother's). There was some things that I think he could have done differently, but I don't discuss that often, and I would rather not now.
Like I have mentioned, My daughter is just a year and a half old, so there's not much that I can say about it. We have a certain method that we use in our home and it works for us.
I think there is a distinct difference between discipline and abuse, and abuse doesn't always have to be physical.
If I see something that doesn't feel right, I may say something, otherwise I try to mind my own business.
The best advice I can give to other parents, whether you are first time parents, or you're seasoned, is that you should find something that works for you and your children and apply it. Even if you have multiple children, find something that works for all of them individually.
What do you all think? Leave a comment below.
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